When my son was young, we ate out more often at restaurants than I'd like to admit. Our time was competing for time! Eventually, the dinner and working thing seemed to get a bit smoother. It helped that our son had become an excellent cook. Conversation found its way into our meals and while meals weren't long or as often as I would have liked, at least we were together.
In our current climate of much to do, many of us have moved away from the consistency of daily meals. Connection is still important - witness the rise of Friendsgiving and many I speak with lament the lack of community in their lives. How do I build a community? It's not an easy task. Much to do in our everyday lives - all of us. No wonder we celebrate friendship when we can!
At Busara, we recognize the importance of community and the importance of sharing a meal together. Dinner together at Busara is an evening ritual. Some residents prep, while others cook and others clean-up. It's a rhythm that is familiar to those that grew up in homes where dinner together was a daily expectation. Creating and sharing a meal allows the sharing of self. Feelings and words make themselves known and the challenges and triumphs of the day and tomorrow's plans are shared. It's a healing and renewing experience, one that we miss when we eat in the car by ourselves or at our desk on a call.
Take the time to eat with someone this week and share a bit about you - something that is unexpected and discover how the day is changed.
By: Gail A. Chester
Psychologist, PhD, LPCS, LMFT., Author